MILF FOLLOW UP!

About a week ago I posted an article on the huge popularity of MILFs, and the threat that it poses to the traditional evolutionary narrative of human mating behaviour.

I asked people to give me their thoughts and opinions, and for the MILF lovers reading to let me know why they in particular found older women sexy.

I received some really thoughtful responses so I thought I would share what I learnt.

The results of the poll revealed NOTHING.  Every MILF lover seems to have a different explanation for their attraction to older women.  

The top 3 responses were:

  1. The Power Dynamic: An older more dominant female and a younger more submissive male
  2. Short Term vs. Long Term: Attraction to MILF porn and the idea of a sexual encounter with a MILF, but wouldn't consider and older woman for a long-term relationship
  3. Sexual Experience: The presumption that MILFs would have more experience than a younger woman

But these three explanations just don't cut it.  For example, one MILF lover explained that while it was the Power Dynamic that he found attractive, it wasn't the one proposed, he would want to flip it.  So the attraction for him is to be dominant, but with a confident, experienced, older woman.


Here are some more detailed explanations from MILF lovers and MILFs themselves:

"Having been with several Milfs myself, going back to the time I was 17 (currently 30), let me give you a basic perspective. Guys want to have sex with attractive women, period. If they can have a no-strings-attached encounter, without fear of pregnancy or repercussions like drama or clingy-ness, even better. Younger women tend to not be as emotionally mature, tend to bring more drama, tend to expect more (dates, romantic gestures, etc), and they have a much higher tendency to get pregnant. Milfs on the other hand, have been there and done that. Often times they have already had kids, are divorced, have professional careers and don't have much time for bullshit, and have generally matured past the drama and emotional games of youth. This all to say they want to skip the drawn out mating dance, and get down to business. This brings a great feeling of "safety" to a young man who has a lot to lose by risking having to pay child support payments or having to deal with drama. He knows that all a milf wants is to fuck, have a good time, and entertain socially for a couple hours before she sends him happily on his way. It's a mutually beneficial relationship where both parties get what they want, the guy gets a 'danger-free' fuck, often gets to creampie her, and the milf gets the benefit of a young, strapping, rock-hard stud. There are no false expectations going into the arrangement, and there are none afterwards."


"MILF here. Not a cougar, but legitimately 32 looking 22. And I live in a college town. Guys usually lose their mind when they find out how old I am, and that I have two kids. It's usually followed by some comment about how I didn't let myself go, and wanting to know my "secret" to staying youthful looking. Typically then their sexual interest level triples at that point though I make it clear that I'm not looking nor interested in 19 year olds. I always took it as men being turned on by what they see, and by the small, almost nonexistent chance that should we become a thing I most likely wouldn't become the stereotypical overweight stressed out mom. There's also a taboo to smashing those that are considered off-limits. I do feel like a lot of it is the glimmer of hope that they might be able to cross off "MILF sex" off the bucket list. It isn't often the opportunity presents itself, I'm sure."

"I sometimes wonder this myself. I am more sexually attracted to women such as my wife who are well beyond child bearing age. Why? I really have no idea. Here's a possible theory: maybe guys like me make more reliably devoted companions to their ageing companions, providing a more reliably safe environment for their progeny to thrive."


"I am in my 40s so I prefer women around my age as opposed to barely-legal teens. Even as a younger man, I would have liked them, however. There is a general fantasy of young men/boys about being educated in the ways of love by an older, hot woman. Maybe a teacher, maybe a friend of your mother. I think this fantasy plays into the MILF phenomenon."


"My bf is 16 years younger than me. Neither of us want kids. Ever. So for him there are very pragmatic reasons. He wants to focus on his career which he is totally slaying. He also likes that I am chilled out and there is no pressure.  Also his mother was the MILF at his all boys high school so that little teenage fantasy was never open to him. Plus he doesn't have to worry about being the provider and all the stress that comes with it. I have my own shit well sorted so it is a great opportunity for him to build his own wealth and not have to be a wage slave. I don't look after him but his life has a metric fuck-ton more flexibilty."