Have faith in your dick. It's done it once and it can do it again.

Q

Hi I wouldn’t usualy ask an anonymous question but… basically over the past year pretty much everytime ive tried to have sex with a new girl I don’t stay fully hard.   At first I thought it was because I had always been derinking but I had REALLY drunk sex with my ex the other day and was absoluteoly fine through it.  Also have had a couple sober 1 night stands and the same thing.  what is this and what do i do so it doesnt keep happening?

A

This sounds to me like a really simple case of performance anxiety.  You were fine during the super drunk sex with your ex because you’ve fucked before and already proved to her that you can keep a boner.  But when you’re having sex with a new partner there is an underlying pressure to perform and you start to doubt your dick.

Just have faith in your penis.  

It's done it once and it can do it again.  And if it does flop (PUN FULLY INTENDED) just take a break from penetration and do something else to keep the girl aroused until it's ready to rise to the occasion (PUN FULLY INTENDED AGAIN).  And if it's sulking and just wont join in, who cares?  Take this moment as a chance to improve on your non-penetrative skills.

The other option is that perhaps you just don’t like 1-night stands… Maybe you're craving sex in a context where there is some emotional attachment or bond.  Whatever you've been told and whatever you think, this is really common among men, and requiring an element of connection with a sex partner isn't a threat to your masculinity.  

Maybe your penis is trying to tell you something and maybe you should listen.

 

 

PS. Are you drunk right now?  That looked a lot like a drunk email.


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Posted on August 26, 2015 .